Linda Blair on Siblings

Ever feel like a referee in a long-running civil war? Sibling rivalry is not some sort of evolutionary mistake says clinical psychologist Linda Blair. Instead of imagining a battlefield, parents need to see sibling relationships as the best natural training ground for healthy social, emotional and cognitive development.

In her fifth book Siblings, Telegraph columnist Linda turns sibling rivalry on its head offering parents a practical positive approach to bringing up children and teenagers and understanding the relationships into adulthood.

With 35 years of experience working with families and using solid clinical research, Linda says instead of trying to eliminate the natural rivalry or strive for an unrealistic idyll of a calm and a non-confrontational household, parents should use sibling interactions to build emotional intelligence and good social skills. Instead of worrying about the arguments, children can be helped to learn to solve the issues that arise.

Our relationships with our siblings are almost certainly the most enduring relationships any of us will ever have. Throughout our lifetimes friends and partners may come and go but no one can divorce a sibling.